Monday, 12 May 2014

Mothers Day


So yesterday was mothers day, and it was surprisingly good, and long, which was great because Sundays usually feel like the shortest day of the week for me.

Mother's day used to be a painful day for me. I always felt like I was the only person in the world without a mom (I get melancholic like that sometimes). I'd sit in church and cry under cover while all the mothers day tributes were being done, and leave after the service like I'd never shed a tear.

This year was different. This year was good. I felt honored to be able to share it with my "new" family, and just to be able to sit in the presence of my new mom and dad was amazing for me.

This year, on mothers day, there was hope, there was break though, there was love!

Lace Jersey and Clutch: Mr Price. Peplum skirt: Miss Boss Couture. Shoes: Forever New.

Thanks for dropping by! How was your mothers day?

- Arlene 

Friday, 14 March 2014

Life lately

Hi there,

Lately, things have crazy in South Africa. Crazy weather, crazy Oscar trial, crazy piled up washing baskets. Crazy, crazy, crazy.

What's crazier is  how long I had hunted for these All Stars. I've been hunting since like, last year. Apparently finding a size 3 is near impossible, but I found one eventually, and I am happy.

Jacket: Mr Price. Jeans: Woolworths. Scarf: Gift. Shoes: Sportscene

With all the heaviness of the Oscar Trial going around everyday, I thought I'd poke some fun at his lawyer, Barry Roux. This guy is tearing apart just about every witness that takes the stand. Hard to the core.

Are you following the trial? What are your thoughts so far?

Thank you for coming by!
- Arlene

Thursday, 27 February 2014



There are few things more comfortable than a maxi dress. This dress was really made for Summer, its comfortable, cool and it looks pretty good too.

So, apparently the end of February marks the end of Summer, really?! And we can feel it already. Cooler evenings and mornings. I'm so sad though, feels like summer just arrived!

Maxi Dress: Mrs Price. Scarf: Gifted. Shoes: Mr Price.

In other news, Darren and I will be addressing a group of youth tomorrow evening, to speak a bit about our testimonies, and share on the topic of identitiy. Wish us luck, this will be my first time speaking in front of a group of people. 

Anyhoo, thanks for reading! 

- Arlene

Monday, 24 February 2014

Work wear

Hello there,

I don't have much to say today, so I'll just show you what I wore to work yesterday.

Blazer: Gifted. Shirt: Woolworths. Jeans: Polo. Shoes: Rage. Bag: Forever New. Necklace: Cotton on

What do you wear to work? Do you have strict rules in terms of dress code? I'd love to hear from you! Please leave your comment below. Thank you for reading!

- Arlene

Sunday, 23 February 2014


Hi there,

This weekend, I wasn't feeling great. I was tired, dizzy and my head was pounding - and my husband had left the house early to get to the radio station, so I was miserable and alone.

At about 11am, he came bouncing up the stairs, and greeted me (looking nasty) with a huge smile, followed by his best friend, Glisson. They looked pretty snazzy, and Gliss insisted that I put them on the blog. So, here they are:

I thought that I'd write a bit about our marriage, since my husband is here already. Writing about it is pretty daunting, because really, the only person that I can talk openly to about our marriage is my husband, and my mother in law. Weird right? All those preconceived perceptions that you have about mother and daughter in laws, scratch them. Ain't none of that going on here.

The time leading up to Darren and I's wedding was so exciting. We have a number of married friends, but I had one (honest) friend tell me about how difficult marriage can sometimes be. I took it to heart, but   I never thought that anything Darren could ever do would irritate me, but let me tell you, now, we tell each other how irritating we are, and it's pretty funny.

Those socks he ties together and throws in washing basket - they irritate me.
That top that he stuffs in the back of his cupboard that I have just neatly packed - that irritates me.
When his best friend calls at 6am on a Saturday morning, and Darren ends up shouting instructions over the phone while still in bed - that irritates me.
When he asks me if I'm ready to leave when he can clearly see me sitting in my bra at the dressing table, still doing my make up - that irritates me.

But I'm pretty irritating too.. 

I climb on top of him to cuddle just to see his irritated face - its hilarious, and it irritates him.
I (occasionally) throw things next to the dust bin and not into it - that irritates him.
I don't eat the crust of my bread, and often leave it in the plate, that goes into the (dry) kitchen sink - that irritates him.
I don't always finish my food - that irritates him
I then put the food that I haven't finished into tupperware - that irritates him. (He has this weird hate relationship with tupperware, very strange really.)

 In spite of all the irritating habits, I love this guy, more than I ever have. We'll be celebrating our 1st anniversary soon, and I am beyond blessed to have him as my husband, and he's pretty blessed to have me too.

This guy, is not my husband. Even though he wishes that he was lol 
This is my husband.
To the singles, and those getting married soon, let me tell you something: marriage is a challenging, fun, sometimes frustrating and often hilarious experience. Enjoy every moment!

Thank you for stopping by!
- Arlene

Tuesday, 18 February 2014

What is your story?

Hi there,

When my husband and I had first met, I asked him to tell me what had attracted him to me. He said that he looked at my eyes and thought; "I wonder what her story is? Have you never just looked at someone and wondered what their story is? How did they get to where they are now?"

That really struck me. It is so easy to look at people and judge them by what their circumstances seem to be at the time. But how did that person get there? Today, I'd like to encourage you to let love lead. Smile at someone that looks sad, and someone that looks happy too! Be friendly. Just be nice! You have no idea where someone may be coming from, or where they're heading to.

What is your story? I would love to hear your experience! You can comment below, or inbox me if you'd like to keep it between us :)

Peplum top: Mr Price. Jeans: Cotton On. Shoes: Melissa

Thank you for stopping by, so looking forward to hearing from you. 

- Arlene

Monday, 20 January 2014


Hello there,

I've been hearing this word a lot lately; niche. In fact, it seems to be everywhere. Some time ago, Nastassja and I had a discussion about some really successful blogs that we've been following. You know, those girls that get invited to events and get free branded clothes, and are brand ambassadors for some really cool shops. We see them pretty much everywhere, on links to each others blogs, and even on huge posters on the shop windows.

We admire these girls, they are go getters, and in some way, we aspire to be like them. The question was, how do they do it? The answer is simple. They work really hard (obviously), and they've found their niche. They appeal to a certain kind of people and they do it pretty dam well.

Driving home yesterday, listening to the radio, they were discussing how much people earn. Some guy called in and said that his profession involves, I quote "x-raying electricity", I mean, I still don't know what he does, but he says that he charges up to R10 000 a day on a job, and he can because it's a niche industry, very few people in South Africa offer this service.

I think I have a pretty good idea of what the word niche means, its like, your thing. The thing that you do better than anyone you know. Just to get some clarity on the definition, I did what any girl would do. I googled it.

Niche: (noun)
a comfortable or suitable position in life or employment.
"he is now head chef at a leading law firm and feels he has found his niche"
synonyms: ideal position, calling.

I really believe that God's desire for us is to find our niche. In Christanese that is, your calling, your purpose. What is God's desire for your life? 

I've seen so many people try so hard to be something that they're not, and they fail, dismally. To be honest, I was one of those people, sometimes, I still am. Sometimes I work so hard at something, but it fails. Why? Because I haven't been true to myself, to my calling. Why would I want to be like anyone else any way? There's only one of me, I am the first and the last, Arlene (Pillay) August. 

Romans 12: 2 - And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what [is] that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.

Even God tells us to just be ourselves. Truth is, when you're honest, and true to yourself, you can't help but be the best you can be, the best that God Himself wants you to be. When you're true and honest with, and to yourself,I truly believe that you'll find yourself within the Will of God.

Anyway, I had that on my heart this morning, and I thought I'd share it with you. Here's what I'm wearing today :) 

Dress: Mr Price. Shoes: Rage. Bag: Woolworths. 

Thank you to my husband for these pictures and for making me feel so pretty this morning while he took them. Bless his beautiful heart!

Come again soon! 

- Arlene